I have worked for several decades, at over a dozen jobs, where the one thing in common was that I was in charge. I seem to always know how to accomplish things better than most people. Not being capable of keeping my mouth shut, I was almost always put in charge eventually.
Even today, I do have some people in my life who know my skills and if involved in a complicated situation will seek me out for guidance. But sadly, most do not.
My negative quality is that I often, when hearing the plans someone has, be it a loved one, a family member, friend, or the panhandler on the street, can’t stop telling them how to perform their goal more effectively. I can’t deal with stupid plans. Stupid plans drive me crazy! Especially if I know a better way to accomplish the goal. A faster way, a less troubled way, a cheaper way, a safer way.
Unfortunately, this curse of mine extends to the world and the universe. I certainly know a better way our government should do things. But then again, who doesn’t? But I also try to guide God from time to time. I look about me and I call out to Him explaining how He should be doing things. Yes, the God who created the entire universe, who designed everything from grass hoppers to my eyebrows, sometimes needs my guidance. Or so I think. Can we say arrogance? Yes.
This creates a great deal of strain on those who are receiving my unasked for guidance, and me, as I worry about people who fail to heed my expert guidance.
So, I am recently embarking on a mission to not be in control of the Universe, the country, or my loved ones or stranger’s lives. If someone asks for advice I will provide it. If someone has formulated a dumb ass stupid plan, I will offer my guidance, once. OK, maybe twice. But then I am leaving them to their tragedies.
I have heard not being in charge of everything and everybody is freeing. Peaceful, even. I have not gotten to that point yet. I have managed to hold my tongue after providing initial guidance, and just letting the disasters happen. But it is extremely stressful to me at this point, but I will persist. For my own sake and for the sake of those who really should not need (but do) my guidance.
Wish me luck.